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Traditional Funerals

The American funeral has changed more in the past few years than in the prior fifty years. It
used to be that the "Traditional Funeral" was pretty much the same. A wake or visitation
period, which lasted anywhere from one to three days, followed by a church service and
burial in the cemetery. Yet today, there is no such thing as a "Traditional Funeral". People are
choosing funeral services that are more reflective of the person and fit the lifestyle of the
family. And with more and more ethnic groups living in our city, traditional funerals now
incorporate many of the customs and ceremonies of different cultures. In any given year,
Lowell-Tims Funeral Homes conducts funeral services for Catholic, Protestant, Orthodox,
Jewish, Buddist and Hindu families, not to mention families that opt for non-religious,
humanistic services. Given the diverse group of families that we serve and the different
options that we provide, there are many choices available when it comes to a funeral.

To give our client families and friends some guidance in selecting a funeral service that is
meaningful, we have put together answers to questions about different types of funeral
options.

What is The Difference Between A Funeral and Memorial Service?

Really the only difference between these two services is whether or not the body is present.
A funeral service is conducted with the presence of the body and a memorial service is
conducted in memory of the person, without the presence of the full body. To learn more
about memorial services, visit our cremation section of this guide

Why is a Funeral Service Important?

In the earliest recorded times, societies honored the dead through ceremonies. According to
beliefs at that time, the purpose of the ritual was to properly send the decedent on the journey
into the next life. Today, however, psychologists and other experts agree that the benefits of
the funeral are for those left behind; those who must reconstruct their lives following their
loss. Before family and friends can fully adjust to their loss, survivors must express their grief
in ways meaningful to them. They must face, openly and realistically, the fact that death has
indeed occurred. The funeral provides the opportunity to do exactly that.

What Is The Purpose of Embalming?

Embalming sanitizes and preserves the body, retards the decomposition process, and
enhances the appearance of a body disfigured by traumatic death or illness. Embalming makes
it possible to lengthen the time between death and the final disposition, thus allowing family
members time to arrange and participate in the type of service most comforting to them.

Is Embalming Required By Law?

No, in Oklahoma embalming is not required by law. However, embalming is required if the
family has selected a funeral service with a public wake or viewing. Embalming is also
required if the deceased is to be tansporting from one state to another by common carrier.
For example, if an individual passes away in Florida and is to be transported by airplane to
Oklahoma for burial, embalming would be required.

What Times Are Available For A Visitation?

While we provide guidance with respect to visitation periods, we leave the actual time up to
the family. Visitations may extend to multiple days or may take place in just an hour or so
before the funeral service. Morning, afternoon and evening hours are available during the
week or on weekends. It all depends upon the needs of the family.

Why Do Funerals Seem So Expensive?

When compared to other major life cycle events, like births and weddings, funerals are not
expensive. A wedding costs at least three times as much; but because it is a happy event,
wedding costs are rarely criticized. A funeral home is a 24-hour, labor-intensive business,
with extensive facilities (viewing rooms, chapels, limousines, hearses, etc.); these expenses
must be factored into the cost of a funeral. Moreover, the cost of a funeral includes not only
merchandise, like caskets, but the services of a funeral director in making arrangements,
filing appropriate forms, dealing with doctors, ministers, florists, newspapers and others; and
seeing to all the necessary details.

Can You Still Have a Traditional Funeral With Cremation?

Just because someone is interested in cremation does not mean that the family cannot have a
viewing and funeral service. All of the customs and ceremonies associated with a traditional
funeral can still be performed prior to the cremation taking place. For these occasions, we
offer economical cremation caskets and rental caskets.

Where Can a Funeral Be Held?

Traditionally, funerals are held in a church, which is still a common practice today. However,
there are several other options. Funeral services may be held at the funeral home in our
Chapel or can even be held at the gravesite or cemetery chapel.

How Can A Funeral Be Personalized?

It is becoming more common to tailor a funeral service to the personality of the deceased.
Prayers and remembrances offered by family and friends, favorite music, treasured
belongings, pictures and momentos can all play a major role in making the final tribute fitting
and moving. The family can choose to assemble a display containing family photographs,
favorite possessions, items from a hobby or awards the deceased received. These items help
shift the emphasis of the services to the memories of the person's life, rather than on the
circumstances of his or her death. Personalization can also be added by simply choosing the
most appropriate services and products available from the funeral home. These include
cremation and its various service options, participating in a living memorial program.

What Cemetery Options Are Available For Burial?

Most funerals in North America conclude with earth burial, which is burying the remains
contained in a casket into the ground. Purchases made for this option generally include a
casket, a vault, a cemetery plot and a headstone or grave marker.